Oh to be Desirable and Pleasant

By: Belinda Young

“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” Hebrews 13:5

It is always fun to be around friends and family having a good time and enjoying each other’s company. It is fun to laugh and play games, feeling the love and kindness of people you love. I am sure you have been in the midst of having a good time, and somebody for some reason, gets bent out of shape and mad, and then commences to fuss. The good time together has been halted by someone with a bad spirit. 

Sometimes you may be in a crowd and feel so out of place because these are not people you know or feel comfortable around. 

It is a good thing sometimes to just learn to keep your mouth shut and contemplate your surroundings. You may have to meditate - in your mind, heart, and soul - on the goodness of God. You may have to realize that you are in a situation that calls for some soul searching and ask God to give you wisdom and understanding to make wise decisions so that you don’t end up in the adverse situations that others around you may be in. 

Some attitudes you can observe and should decide that you will not allow yourself to succumb to are —

Feeling sorry for yourself 

Complaining about others

Being Disagreeable

Being Argumentative 

Being Contentious 

Being one who always thinks he is right

Making fun of others 

When you look at that list, if you are honest, these are qualities that make a person undesirable. And if you are truly honest with yourself, you want people to like you. You must work on yourself to avoid these natural, selfish, and undesirable qualities. You must make a conscientious effort to put on the desirable qualities God wants you to have. 

It is very important - while you are young - to learn to control your spirit and to say, “I will not allow myself to feed these undesirable traits and let them become a part of my character.” 

Some people in your life - who when their name is brought up - you automatically think of their undesirable qualities. Is this what you want others to think of you? 

Psalm 133:1, “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!”

It is good to develop a pleasant spirit. Learn from others. Contemplate what makes a person pleasant. Watch those who are always complaining or talking about others. Purpose in your heart that you will not be one of those. Ask God to help you. 

Contentment is such a wonderful disposition. You may be in the center of conversation, or you may be sitting to the side listening to others commence to chatter. But to be content in either position is a trait that must be worked at. 

You may have enough funds to have pretty much what you want. Or you may just have enough to keep you fed and meagerly clothed. But if you have a contented and thankful spirit - you will be the most pleasant person to be around. 

Hebrews 13:5, “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”

Having a content spirit will show on the outside. There will be no scowl on the face, no furrowed brow, no disdain in the eyes, but there will be a kindness which radiates forth inviting others to friendship. 

Contentment and pleasantness come from having your own personal relationship with the Lord. You can talk to Him when nobody else is there to fellowship with. He will keep you right when you are the center of attention with a whole assembly of people. 

Learn to have a desirable spirit with people and with God. You will never have to apologize for being content, pleasant, and kind. 

Jesus is our example in life, right? Luke 2 tells us about Jesus at 12 years old. He was obedient to His parents, though they “corrected” Him when He was in the right. Luke 2:52, “And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.”